Pre-Frames: The Key to Winning Every Time

Use pre-frames to assure that you always win the game. A pre-frame is a way of spinning your current reality to view it in a certain way and set expectations accordingly. Make a point of pre-framing situations in a way that ensures you always win the game (i.e. set yourself up to feel that you won every time you strike out and go after results).

Some examples of pre-frames include:

·         Winning = I got myself to take action.

·         Winning = I achieved a goal.

·         Winning = I enjoyed the process.

Others include:

·         I will get great insight out of my coaching session today.

·         My meeting with ____ will bring more opportunity than I expected.

·         My client will see my skilled work and offer me more money

·         My work on this TV shoot will happen like a well oiled machine today and take very little effort on my part.

Re-Frames Overcome Adversity

A re-frame is similar to a pre-frame in that it’s a way to shift your perception of something, but a re-frame occurs during or after something unexpected has happened.

Example 1: You lose $350 that you couldn't afford to lose.

·         Initial Reaction: Feelings of frustration or despair about losing that money.

·         Re-Frame: Using the experience to remind yourself that money isn’t everything, or to motive you to get to a place where $350 is not a significant amount of money.

Example 2: You owe the IRS $10,000 in taxes that you can’t afford to pay.

·         Initial Reaction: Feelings of anxiety or stress about paying that much money.

·         Re-Frame: Gratitude for earning so much money in the past year

Re-frames are the ‘other side of the coin’

Some real positives can come from a negative, depending on the perspective you use. Some questions to use to help you reframe include:

·         What can I learn from this?

·         How can this serve me or others?

·         What’s funny about this?

Things to Re-Frame as You Start Changing you Path

·         A prospective job/client just rejected me.

·         I couldn't do the assigned task.

·         I’m not making enough money.

·         That client hates me now.

·         Those people think I’m a fruit-cake.

·         I don’t know how I’m going to make it.

·         I don’t know what’s going to happen. 

In 1914, Thomas Edison's lab burned down, and years' worth of his work was destroyed. This could easily be described as the worst thing to happen to Edison, but the inventor instead chose to see it as an energizing opportunity that forced him to rebuild and re-examine much of his work. Edison reportedly said at the time: "Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start again fresh."